By: Jack Robinson
Learn to recognize and stop parental alienation!
The Alienating parent will exhibit specific behaviors, signs and symptoms than those of the children and the target parent. The following examples of Alienators behavior are called Red Flags. The more of these a parent exhibits or enacts, the higher the probability of parental alienation syndrome is occurring.
● Alienator insists that the target parent’s extended family is not the children’s “real family” or that they are no good.
● Alienator tells the child(ren) that they have been replaced by the Target Parents new partner.
● Alienator tells the child(ren) that they have been replaced by children born to the Target Parent and any new partner – whether or not children have been born.
● Alienator tells the child(ren) that they have been replaced by the Target Parent’s new partner’s child(ren) and that they are therefore not wanted or loved by the Target Parent.
● Alienator denigrates all statements, answers, discipline and activities of the Target Parent with regard to their child(ren).
● Alienator frequently suggests to the child(ren) that the Target Parent and/or new partner will do harm to the child(ren).
● Alienator demands that the Target Parent be subjected to and accept blame for any injury incurred by the child however minor and natural in the course of life.
● Alienator forces the child to report minor injuries, bumps and bruises from play to a professional person as being the result of the Target Parent and/or new partner.
● Alienator shaves off the child’s hair when the cut is provided by the Target Parent stating that the cut is bad and the hair ruined.
● Alienator refuses the Target Parent to comfort the child when injured in play.
● Alienator demands medical intervention for minor illnesses (ie. Demanding antibiotics for colds) and play injuries.
● Alienator undertakes “doctor shopping” until a practitioner sympathetic to their cause is found.
● Alienator does not comply with appropriate medical advice from practitioners who are not sympathetic to their cause.
● Alienator actively damages (cutting, tearing or staining) clothing provided for the child by the Target Parent.
● Alienator refuses reasonably required medical treatment where the Target Parent has sought review for a serious medical condition, which impairs the child or causes them to suffer.
● Alienator allows the child to undertake activities after separation from Target Parent, which were previously refused and blames the Target Parent for denying the child such activities.
● Alienator refuses to allow the child(ren) time alone with other adults or children.
● Alienator refuses to allow children to attend sleepovers with friends accusing friends parents of abuse.
● Alienator refuses to allow sleepovers stating that they ‘do not want the children to see how others live.”
● Alienator frequently tells the child(ren) that Target Parent will harm them, has mental health problems etc. creating a fear of the Target Parent.