From The Workbook: Take A Step Towards Self Care

From the Workbook: The Divorce Recovery Ladder

Divorce is stressful.  A toxic divorce is, well – toxic.  It will suck the life out of you and drain your emotional resources.  It is relentless and can seem never ending.

According to the well-known Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale*, divorce is the second highest stressor next to death of a spouse.

It is no surprise that a prolonged period of unrelenting contention can wreak havoc with your health resulting in anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, thyroid conditions, gastrointestinal illnesses, muscle pain and autoimmune diseases.

You MUST take care of yourself if you are to survive this nightmare.  Please find something, ANYTHING that will get your body moving to rid it of stress.  You don’t have to run marathons or become a body builder.  However, it is imperative that you have a consistent exercise regime even if that means walking around your neighborhood every day for twenty minutes.  Exercise releases endorphins which are hormones that promote the feeling of well-being and you need to feel and be well during your ordeal.  You may join a gym or take classes at a dance or yoga studio.  Most gyms have dance, yoga, Zumba, Pilates and spin classes.  Joining a gym does not have to be expensive.  The YMCA has wonderful facilities all over the country for a fraction of the cost of most private gyms.  Many community centers have exercise classes for nominal fees.

Make a chart to keep on top of your fitness.  Included in the workbook is an example of a very basic exercise regime that helps manage a routine.  Make notes of how that particular activity made you feel so that you can see what works better for you as well as keeps you engaged in the process.